Decorum

‘Appropriate behavior, good manners,’ is what Thesaurus.com says is the definition of decorum.

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Synonyms for decorum are: ‘breeding, civility, conduct, convenance, convention, correctitude, correctness, courtliness, decency, demeanor, deportment, dignity, etiquette, form, formality gentility, good grace, gravity, habits, order, orderliness, politeness, politesse, properness, propriety, protocol, punctilio, respectability, seemliness, tact,’ Thesaurus.com proceeds to inform the reader.

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Indeed, there is a coarsening of our society that is endemic.

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I was associated with University Life since 1978 and still am privileged to be, somewhat, until the present.  When I began at University, it would have been unthinkable to here a student address their professor by anything but their title and last name.  Care would have been taken to show the proper respect for the dignity of the professorship and the elegant surroundings of University.

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Although, now, and for several years it is not unusual to hear slang and curse words used in conversation both inside and outside the hallowed halls of academia.  A professor friend of mine said that she often had to instruct her’ students that were speaking to her to not use profanity in their verbal comments to her.

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I, as we all do, shop and do business on often a daily basis.  Without fail I, according to my childhood training, say thank you to the person checking me out or the employee waiting on me in a department or grocery establishment.  The response that I almost universally receive is, ‘no problem.’

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‘I heard poorly rated @ Morning Joe speaks badly of me (don’t watch anymore).  Then how come low I.Q. Crazy Mika, along with Psycho Joe, came…to Mar-a-Lago 3 nights in a row around New Year’s Eve, and insisted on joining me.  She was bleeding badly from a face-lift.  I said no!,’ President Trump tweeted.

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Misogyny – ‘dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudiced against women.’

Misogyny – ‘is the hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against women or girls.  Misogyny can be manifested in numerous ways, including social exclusion, sex discrimination, hostility, androcentrism patriarchy, male privilege, belittling of women, violence against women, and sexual objectification,’ according to Wikipedia.

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Often, I greet people that I meet with a hello or similar greeting.  It is amazing to me the number of those who I have greeted that only respond with a serious stare or glare.

Decorum and manners and interpersonal communication with other members of the human family…matter.  Respect and reverence for others dignity and rights and our shared humanity…matter.

When we say…well that is what Joe and Mika deserve for critical reporting of the President…we ignore a basic construct that has held our society together since it’s foundation.  Our President is the Leader of the Free World.  We look to him for guidance and counsel on how to act in difficult situations.  We expect him to take the high road…as a leader should.

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Think about this…for a moment…if it is alright now for the President to say whatever he wants to about a fellow United States citizens that he disagrees with…then it is alright for him to disparage your wife…your daughter…your mother…your granddaughter…your sister?

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You see, this type of callous inconsiderate…bullying behavior is spreading across our land.  A young man, in high school, recently committed suicide…due to his classmates bullying him.

It is one thing to disagree…it is another to be disagreeable…it is yet another to be a bully.

‘Absolute power corrupts absolutely,’ according to British politician Lord Acton.

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7 responses

  1. Henrietta Watson | Reply

    A very good post. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Thank you my friend. 🤠

      1. Henrietta Watson

        You are welcome!

  2. Good read! Sadly I find that decorum has gone out the window these days. Younger generation sans manners or even a polite greeting is much extinct. Students in Polytechnics do not even greet their lecturers! Ah well live and learn I guess but I believe in decorum. Ha ha!

    1. Yes indeed. There are still a few of us left! 😉

      1. Hooray!! Let’s hope we do not become T Rex…happy weekend ahead my friend😊

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